Helps for the paradigm shift to patriarchy!

Paradigm shifts are hard. Sometimes we suddenly ‘see’ it intellectually, but still need to overcome cultural or doctrinal baggage. In a recent conversation, I discussed ‘three to five word truth bombs’ for the purpose of ‘reprogramming’ or ‘overcoming attacks of the adversary.’

I want to share some of these and hope the reader will comment with some more! The idea is to use these on yourself as necessary, or with a healthy dose of love and grace, say them to your spouse.

Her, to herself,  or  properly rephrased, to him:

  • I LOVE him.
  • I belong to him.
  • He is not mine.
  • I am his.
  • He belongs to Messiah.
  • He is my head.
  • He is my authority.
  • God gave me TO him.
  • His vision, not mine.
  • I cannot control him.
  • I cannot manipulate him.
  • He is responsible.
  • I am obedient to him.

Him, to himself, or properly rephrased, to her.

  • I LOVE her.
  • She belongs to me.
  • I don’t belong to her.
  • She does not own me.
  • I am the head.
  • Messiah is MY head.
  • My vision, my calling.
  • I refuse to be manipulated.
  • I refuse to be controlled.
  • God gave her TO me.
  • I am responsible.
  • I am obedient to Messiah.

Such phrases, properly used, will help in spiritual and mental reprogramming.  Caution must be taken though for the man when speaking to his woman that he not be nor sound arrogant. Some of these thoughts are best kept and said internally. These “truth bombs” will help the man transition into alpha masculinity and enable the woman to battle jealousy and other negative emotions while learning to remain humble.

We pray these help you in your journey to walk out what Scripture says for proper male-female relationships in a marriage.

Shalom!

How Should a Woman Pray for Her Man?

Recently I was asked, ‘In light of God’s authority structure, and recognizing that God will not violate His own structure, is it okay for my woman to pray for me or over me?’

In Christendom, the immediate answer is , ‘Of course!’ But, the question gave me pause to think. I considered various implications and scenarios which led to this article, Suzerain-Vassal Relationships in God’s Authority Structure, published on natsab.

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‘You don’t own me…’

The sultry voice of Lesley Gore gets me every time.  I can’t help but sing along.  I grew up with my father’s music.  Loved it…

Still do, but now older and wiser I see and hear things that shock me. Things that answer questions about how our culture went so wrong.

In December of 1963, Lesley released a single titled ‘You don’t own me’ that rocketed to #2 on the Billboard chart and went on to be a million copy seller.  While she did not unseat the Beatles for the top spot, she daringly struck a violent blow near the beginning of the 1960’s sexual and feminist revolution. Her contribution to the assault on Biblical gender roles is unmistakable, and all couched in a catchy radio tune.

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Exposing the ‘mutual submission’ fallacy in marriage

A common Christian error concerning marriage is ‘mutual submission.’ The fallacy is usually built on,

Ephesians 5:21 …and be subject to one another in the fear of Messiah.

The very next verse delves into marriage relationships, therefore, the two must be connected, right?

Well….  not so fast!!

Simple logic and a reading of the next few verses in context will quickly dispel the ‘mutual submission applies to marriage’ fallacy. Continue reading “Exposing the ‘mutual submission’ fallacy in marriage”

Adam – The Second Patriarch Part 1 – Creation of Patriarchy

This is the first entry in the series of patriarchal vignettes drawn from the stories about different men throughout biblical history. The second part is Adam – The Second Patriarch: Part 2 – A Patriarch’s Fall.

It was a beautiful day in the morning of the world. Just a few days earlier on Days Two and Three, the world had been spoken into existence by the Word of YHVH, given light on Day Four, populated with plants and all manner of beasts on Days Five and Six. Finally, in great and deep joy, YHVH made man in His image and put him in the Garden of Eden, then He rested on Day Seven. All was perfect. YHVH smiled and the Heavenly Host sang for joy (Job 38:4-11, esp. v.7).

Dear Son-in-law:

Recently a friend of mine (Zec) sent me and several other men a video and asked for feedback before it went public. It was absolutely stunning.

Men, this fits with the focus we have had over the last few months in our Restoring Kol Israel series. It’s a bold message with a lot of challenging truth packed into it that all men, especially fathers, need to hear. Here are a couple of the responses from that conversation:

Beyond incredible.
You have packed so many concepts into a short video.
I’ve listened to 2 hour sermons that haven’t had 1/4 the content.

Steve Turner

Wow Zec. Awesome. Rivetting, gold…What I just saw is the fruit of a hard won education and the heart of a warrior for the Kingdom. You are a man I want my boys around, one I am glad to call a brother and fellow sojourner. Have always had Hugh respect for you, but it grew this morning!
The world may not receive it well, but men who do will be better men.

Pete Rambo

Torah Portion: Toldot (Genesis 25:19-28:9)

See Toldot from a new perspective! Consider the aspects of family dynamic, headship and patriarchy as you dig into this week’s Torah portion. Connect it with Proverbs and parental responsibility.

Go to our Torah Portion Series page to view or download in multiple formats.

Restoring kol Israel: How we ‘disable’ our children

“What’s the use? I’m gonna die anyway?”

His reply to my question was rather listless.

It started after Shabbat when I asked a young man in our fellowship what he wanted to study for and do when he finished school. He just shrugged his shoulders and said, “What’s the use? I’m gonna die anyway?”

I probed him with a couple more questions to diagnose the problem and quickly figured out that he was deeply concerned about the state of the world and the coming Great Tribulation. In his mind, there is nothing much to live for.

Why try?

My immediate response was a vigorous reminder that we have at least 1000 years to go! The Tribulation is not the end. It is a beginning!! A beginning to the millennial reign! Others gathered around, wondering what the hubbub was, and it turned into a wonderful impromptu lesson for all who had lingered.

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