Helps for the paradigm shift to patriarchy!

Paradigm shifts are hard. Sometimes we suddenly ‘see’ it intellectually, but still need to overcome cultural or doctrinal baggage. In a recent conversation, I discussed ‘three to five word truth bombs’ for the purpose of ‘reprogramming’ or ‘overcoming attacks of the adversary.’

I want to share some of these and hope the reader will comment with some more! The idea is to use these on yourself as necessary, or with a healthy dose of love and grace, say them to your spouse.

Her, to herself,  or  properly rephrased, to him:

  • I LOVE him.
  • I belong to him.
  • He is not mine.
  • I am his.
  • He belongs to Messiah.
  • He is my head.
  • He is my authority.
  • God gave me TO him.
  • His vision, not mine.
  • I cannot control him.
  • I cannot manipulate him.
  • He is responsible.
  • I am obedient to him.

Him, to himself, or properly rephrased, to her.

  • I LOVE her.
  • She belongs to me.
  • I don’t belong to her.
  • She does not own me.
  • I am the head.
  • Messiah is MY head.
  • My vision, my calling.
  • I refuse to be manipulated.
  • I refuse to be controlled.
  • God gave her TO me.
  • I am responsible.
  • I am obedient to Messiah.

Such phrases, properly used, will help in spiritual and mental reprogramming.  Caution must be taken though for the man when speaking to his woman that he not be nor sound arrogant. Some of these thoughts are best kept and said internally. These “truth bombs” will help the man transition into alpha masculinity and enable the woman to battle jealousy and other negative emotions while learning to remain humble.

We pray these help you in your journey to walk out what Scripture says for proper male-female relationships in a marriage.


Author: Pete Rambo

Details in 'About' page @ Basically, husband of one, father of four. Pastor x 11 years, former business and military background. Micro-farmer. Messianic believer in Yeshua haMashiach!

2 thoughts on “Helps for the paradigm shift to patriarchy!”

  1. Good stuff, Pete,

    “I cannot manipulate him.”
    Maybe that would be more true if she said, “I shouldn’t usurp control.”

    Men are only responsible for what they can control, not things which are beyond their control or for wives that are in willful disobedience to them. Adam was only responsible for his own sin, of hearkening to the woman instead of God, not for Eve’s sin, because she had rebelled, against both Adam and God. Eve was responsible and got directly cursed by God for her own rebellion.

    “Caution must be taken though for the man when speaking to his woman that he not be nor sound arrogant.”
    Is a husband and father not worthy of honor even in his own house? Are men not the image and glory of God?
    Are those arrogant statements? Are we to be a little bit ashamed of saying them? LOL
    Should men start off by apologizing for their manhood, and then ask her how many of those they’re allowed to say? Why not say them like they mean them? Should we apologize for offending their satanic Feminism with God’s holy patriarchy? Why not rather instruct the women to say their part with shamefacedness, which becometh women professing godliness?(1 Timothy 2:9-10)

    Shamefacedness was not said to be fitting for both sexes. Wives are to see to it that they reverence their husbands.(Ephesians 5:33) Because their husband images Christ, who is God, while the wife images the rebellion prone church, which is not God. Men and women are not created equal. It is not arrogant that the superior should rule over the lesser, like God ordained in 1 Corinthians 11:3. Or do you not see that as a rightly ordered chain of command, but instead a tyranny where equals get subjugated arbitrarily by divine fiat? If men really are superior vessels to women, then it isn’t arrogant to state it, and it would be deceptive and discordant to deny it.

    I recommend men state those truths with confidence, and if some Feminist wants to wrongly infer arrogance, she clearly needs to learn her place. Arrogance is feeling prideful or superior to a presumptuous or undue degree, not just clearly stating one’s God-ordained role.

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