Paradigm shifts are hard. Sometimes we suddenly ‘see’ it intellectually, but still need to overcome cultural or doctrinal baggage. In a recent conversation, I discussed ‘three to five word truth bombs’ for the purpose of ‘reprogramming’ or ‘overcoming attacks of the adversary.’
I want to share some of these and hope the reader will comment with some more! The idea is to use these on yourself as necessary, or with a healthy dose of love and grace, say them to your spouse.
Her, to herself, or properly rephrased, to him:
- I LOVE him.
- I belong to him.
- He is not mine.
- I am his.
- He belongs to Messiah.
- He is my head.
- He is my authority.
- God gave me TO him.
- His vision, not mine.
- I cannot control him.
- I cannot manipulate him.
- He is responsible.
- I am obedient to him.
Him, to himself, or properly rephrased, to her.
- I LOVE her.
- She belongs to me.
- I don’t belong to her.
- She does not own me.
- I am the head.
- Messiah is MY head.
- My vision, my calling.
- I refuse to be manipulated.
- I refuse to be controlled.
- God gave her TO me.
- I am responsible.
- I am obedient to Messiah.
Such phrases, properly used, will help in spiritual and mental reprogramming. Caution must be taken though for the man when speaking to his woman that he not be nor sound arrogant. Some of these thoughts are best kept and said internally. These “truth bombs” will help the man transition into alpha masculinity and enable the woman to battle jealousy and other negative emotions while learning to remain humble.
We pray these help you in your journey to walk out what Scripture says for proper male-female relationships in a marriage.
Note the bottom line (pun intended): ALL of the man-made structures lead to emasculated men and confused women.
An interesting blog post crossed my feed the other day. At least the first half of it was really interesting, more on that in a minute….
The following (half) post copied from Move From This Mountain has some valuable pieces of insight regarding headship and patriarchy. Of particular interest is the author’s assertion, which I believe correct, that men must deal with men. Or, put another way – Men innately know that women do not have authority over them.Continue reading “Men Deal With Men…”
As a recent Patreon supporter for Eric Conn’s Hard Men Podcast, I not only have early access to his exceptional episodes, but I can also listen to his private ‘Ask Me Anything’ episode each month. Questions can run the gamut of things that men deal with, one of which is taking care of and providing Godly husbands for daughters. Conn dealt with this very question in last month’s episode.
The question he was posed by a member asked if there is a shortage of Godly men and if so, how best to find a righteous spouse for his marriageable daughter.
Conn’s answer was jolting as he cited statistics and the gravity of the situation. Indeed, there is a shortage of Godly men, and ‘the more Orthodox or pious, the fewer men.’ While Conn cited multiple sources for his opinion, his primary source was an article by Institute for Family Studies titled Sex Ratios in the Pews: Is There Really a Deficit of Men in American Churches?Continue reading “Righteous Single Women have Tough Choices”
I read an excellent blog post by Eric Conn that left me a bit breathless and pining for more. It was titled Why Men Need A Gang. So much rang true that I immediately had to…
Today, I want to talk about gangs! That’s right…GANGS!
And, I don’t mean the criminal element, but instead, simply – a group of highly bonded men who are working and fighting together toward a common goal.
I want to talk about why men need a brotherhood ~ cause you DO! ~ why you need a fraternity of other men to sharpen you, spur you on to action, and encourage you in the weighty task of taking dominion…”Eric Conn, The Hard Men Podcast on/about 8/9/20
About a week ago, I read an excellent blog post by Eric Conn that left me a bit breathless and pining for more. It was titled Why Men Need A Gang. So much rang true that I immediately had to leave a comment on his blog. I meant to write some thoughts about that post, but was glad I hadn’t when a friend alerted me that Eric had posted a podcast expounding on the topic.
Men! You must read the post and listen to the podcast!! Excellent insight and challenge to take intentional and measurable steps in the direction of creating a gang.Continue reading “Men need a Gang!”
The adversary, ole Slewfoot, is all about destroying Creation. He attacks in many different ways and from multiple directions, not the least of which is trying to destroy the differences in the sexes. We see this in the LBGTQXYZ v. ‘cisgender’ battle in culture today. Another recently addressed avenue of attack is androgyny. In fact, the attacks are limitless and myriad from soft egalitarianism or complementarianism to hardcore feminism and matriarchy.
One area that is regularly attacked is the obvious differences in men end women in how they think, act, and are physically constructed. If the enemy can destroy those differences, he can undermine the very purposes for which each was created.Continue reading “Newsflash: Men and Women ARE different!!”
Until yesterday morning, I’m not sure I would have connected the terms ‘Marxist’ and ‘Feminism,’ but I’ll never make that mistake again!!
Thanks to a GREAT recommendation by The Transformed Wife, I heard Eric Conn’s Hard Men Podcast titled ‘Against Complementarianism.’ This may be the best investment of 39 minutes I have made in the last year!
Eric had my attention from the very beginning when he mentioned, negatively, John Piper and Wayne Grudem’s Recovering Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, A Response to Evangelical Feminism. I began reading the book a year or two ago as part of my study of Biblical manhood, but I never could quite connect with their position. Something was inherently wrong, but I couldn’t put my finger on it.Continue reading “Marxist Feminism and Weak Men”
While I have long understood that one reason God created marriage was to image His relationship with His people (Eph. 5:22-33), to a much lesser degree, I understood that a purpose for marriage is sanctification. It was not, however, until the last couple years of understanding Biblical marriage, that I began to understand how very significant the aspect of sanctification is.
Sanctification, by definition, is the process of ‘making holy.’ Holy means ‘set apart’ or ‘consecrate,’ so ‘sanctification’ means ‘the process of setting apart, or making holy.’ See the following snip from an online dictionary:Continue reading “Marriage and Sanctification”
The TV or print ads concerning aid for the hungry weigh heavily on the average person’s conscience. We are often quickly moved to open a checkbook or make a donation. Many churches or home fellowships have a system to help the known needs of those in the community. Most would react quickly and easily if they knew of a local family without food. We are familiar with James’ admonition,
If a brother or sister be naked, and destitute of daily food, and one of you say unto them, Depart in peace, be ye warmed and filled; notwithstanding ye give them not those things which are needful to the body; what doth it profit? (2:15-16).James 2:15-16 KJV
Or, in more modern English,Continue reading “Sharing More Than a Meal”