An interesting blog post crossed my feed the other day. At least the first half of it was really interesting, more on that in a minute….
The following (half) post copied from Move From This Mountain has some valuable pieces of insight regarding headship and patriarchy. Of particular interest is the author’s assertion, which I believe correct, that men must deal with men. Or, put another way – Men innately know that women do not have authority over them.
Boys do not become men in a vacuum. Culturally, the expectation is that boys become men by virtue of age or osmosis, however such is not the case. Manhood requires intentionality.
What a weekend!!
The men in the home fellowship I help lead have been discussing masculinity and manhood, so we decided to take our sons on a weekend hiking trip in a wilderness area with a very challenging day hike planned for Saturday. We bit off a very rewarding mouth full and came home exhausted, but having learned a great deal.
Boys do not become men in a vacuum. Culturally, the expectation is that boys become men by virtue of age or osmosis, however such is not the case. Raising men, particularly Godly men, requires intentionality. I could spend a whole series of posts on this aspect alone, but I want to share a bit about steps the men in our fellowship have assumed for our sons.
The primary focus of 113Restoration is the Restoration of kol Israel through the restoration of the most basic building block of culture and society: Family. And, more specifically, rebuilding marriage and the man.
Scripture clearly articulates that the ‘sin problem’ stems from Adam (Rom. 5:12-19), and the ‘fix,’ begins with redemption in the Second Adam (Yeshua) and is carried forth through the rebuilding of all ‘Adams’ and their families.
We, at 113Restoration, have focused on marriage and the proper roles of man and woman, and these will continue to be a focus. However, it is necessary to expand our scope to address the broader roles of husband/father and wife/mother. I’ve personally felt the need for this in our fellowship and immediate circle as the Father continues to place GREAT resources in my path that deal with masculinity and its many facets. To that end, some of the fathers and sons in our fellowship are planning a weekend hiking and studying masculinity and the Biblical mandate for dominion. We are taking intentional steps to strengthen the masculinity and sharpen the vision of our sons.
I’ve been holding on to a video for a couple weeks that I wanted to write an article about, but time is a precious commodity… I’ll let this speak for itself.
Here is a secular, female divorce attorney who specializes in defending fathers. She has a fantastic grip on the importance of fathers and has made a real difference in the lives of thousands of children who still have close access to their fathers!
Reading their article and the comments highlights two very important things:
– The world knows there is a radical problem when no father is present, and
– They haven’t a clue that Scripture has a solution, writ LARGE that they choose to ignore.
Godly men are too few, but single moms/women (and their children) are not limited to the dregs of male choices. As clearly articulated in our articles, papers, links, refutations, etc, Scripture clearly teaches that a man may have more than one wife and be the father that so many boys need.
The marriage culture disaster in western civilization is fueled in large part by false monogamy-only doctrines and egalitarian mindsets that emasculate men and are decidedly UNbiblical. We’re just reaping the whirlwind we sowed…
Want to reverse the trend? Want to be part of the solution instead of the problem? Take God’s Word seriously and quit making excuses for why God calls Abraham, Jacob, Moses, David et al, righteous when they clearly had larger families than America’s 2.1 children.
As we continue our headship study we need to keep in mind that the Scriptures are almost completely opposed to our modern cultural understanding of family structure, morals and responsibility. One major aspect of this is the role of a husband in this thing we call marriage.
While we generally assume that ‘husband’ means ‘male spouse in a marriage,’ the older definitions, and especially the verb forms are quite instructive:
a married man, especially when considered in relation to his partner in marriage.
British. a manager.
Archaic. a prudent or frugal manager.
verb (used with object)
to use frugally; conserve: to husband one’s resources.
to manage, especially with prudent economy.
to be or become a husband to; marry.
to find a husband for.
to till; cultivate.
Husband, in its purest form is a manager of resources or cultivator. One might specifically call to mind a vinedresser, or one who guards, prunes, trains and harvests from a vine.
For most, the transition to Torah from typical Christian doctrine requires a major retooling or correcting of understanding regarding basic terms and ideas. As an example, most have been taught that the ‘Law’ is bad and therefore needs to be removed or in some way minimized so that we are freed from it. The revelation, early in the Torah walk, that ‘Torah’ means ‘instructions’ and not ‘law’ begins to reform, or re-form, our understanding of God’s loving expectations and desires. As we pursue this, we learn that the Father has specific ways that bring blessings when we understand them properly and apply them in our lives in the way He intended them.
In the beginning parts of this series considering headship and patriarchy, we have seen that God’s Word clearly reveals a particular plan for how families are supposed to operate in order to rightly reflect Him and His glory as well as the particular relationship between Him and His people. To paraphrase Paul in Ephesians 5, ‘the covenant relationship between man and woman should be a reflection of the Messiah and the Qahal/ekklesia/congregation.’
In other words, this thing we call marriage should be an exact representation of Yeshua and His people. The challenge is that so much false teaching and understanding at the hand of the enemy has led most Christians who claim to have ‘Biblical marriages’ to an understanding that is decidedly UNbiblical. We hear terms like ‘partnership,’ ‘egalitarian,’ ‘co-equal,’ and ‘mutual submission’ which are all radically contrary to Scripture from beginning to end. Rather, these are the very essence of the influence of feminism in the church, tendrils which trace to the Garden of Eden.
This morning, as I commuted to my job for the day, I was listening to YouVersion read me the book of Job. I’m part of a small group listening through the Chronological Bible plan with some light discussion as we go. (If you care to join us in that plan, drop me an email and we can connect on YouVersion then I’ll add you.)
As we continue our headship study we will continue with the writings of Paul. Previously, we looked at 1 Corinthians 11:3, 7-10. Here we will consider the verses in the middle, often ignored or minimized as simply being about a cloth head covering.
Every man who has something on his head while praying or prophesying disgraces his head.  But every woman who has her head uncovered while praying or prophesying disgraces her head, for she is one and the same as the woman whose head is shaved.  For if a woman does not cover her head, let her also have her hair cut off; but if it is disgraceful for a woman to have her hair cut off or her head shaved, let her cover her head.  For a man ought not to have his head covered, since he is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man.
1 Corinthians 11:4-7 NASB
As pointed out in the opening post of this series Paul upheld and taught the Torah. I believe we do ourselves and this passage a disservice when we only focus on the literal cloth head covering debate and ignore the deeper truths that Paul is teaching us in this passage. Remember, foundationally, a woman was always to be under the headship/authority/covering of a man. From the beginning, when Eve stepped out from under her covering, we see that she becomes vulnerable. The headship/covering is articulated over and over in Torah through numerous examples demonstrating that a girl was to be under the covering of her father until he released her into the protection of a husband.