Recently I was asked, ‘In light of God’s authority structure, and recognizing that God will not violate His own structure, is it okay for my woman to pray for me or over me?’
In Christendom, the immediate answer is , ‘Of course!’ But, the question gave me pause to think. I considered various implications and scenarios which led to this article, Suzerain-Vassal Relationships in God’s Authority Structure, published on natsab.
Now, last week, I published the graphic below, visibly comparing God’s authority structure in the home with man’s misunderstandings and false applications.
It was the middle pic of the various false man-made ideas that prompted the question we will address. In many, even most circles, the assumption is that God will circumvent the man to address or correct the woman, or even more incorrect, direct the woman to correct the man. However, to do so, He has to violate His own structure.
We have discussed before that God addressed Adam first and did not address Eve until Adam threw her under the bus. Another great example is Numbers 5:18 and surrounding context. God does not judge the woman until the man takes her to the Priest and her covering is removed.
It is very rare that we see Elohim directly address a woman without her covering/husband being in the loop. Consider Judges 13. For some reason, the Angel of the Lord initially addresses the woman, but when she speaks to her master, he rightly asks for her to have the Angel address him directly. There is no judgment in that, rather, the Angel complies! While we do not know what may or may not have been right with Manoach’s relationship with the Most High that He would address the woman first, it is interesting that we know Manoach’s name, but not hers.
Some may point to Genesis 25:22 as an example of a woman, Rebekkah, inquiring of the Lord. She asks a question after Isaac has interceded on her behalf, but her question is simply, ‘Why?’ And, this brings us to, ‘How should a woman pray for her man?’
When initially asked the question, I asked if I could ponder a minute and frame it correctly in my mind. I then basically responded with the following:
If I were your servant and we had a king, could I go to the king and say, ‘I don’t like the way my master acts. Can you discipline him for me?’
Or, same scenario, would the king come to me, the servant, to say, ‘I need you to give your master a message for me. You are to tell him that I want him to do this or that.’
Of course not. If the king wanted to address a subject, the master of a servant, he wouldn’t go through the servant to send the message, particularly if the message was one of correction. Rather, the king would honor his own authority structure knowing he would not want to undermine his own authority. It brings chaos. (Esther 1:17-18)
IF, however, the servant went to the king and asked the king to ‘bless my master, teach him wisdom, show him your favor, expand his holdings because he is a good master and works hard…’ how would the king not want to honor the servant’s request on behalf of the servant?
Here is the very salient and valuable point. The servant’s only authority comes from his master, therefore to ask for things that benefit the master is without undermine his authority is right and good. To request or cry out otherwise is to undermine the authority placed over the servant, something the king will not see favorably!
Last Torah portion there is a beautiful example of a servant speaking to the Most High on behalf of his master. Consider,
12 And he said, “Lord, God of my master Abraham, please grant me success today, and show kindness to my master Abraham. 13 Behold, I am standing by the spring, and the daughters of the men of the city are coming out to draw water; 14 now may it be that the young woman to whom I say, ‘Please let down your jar so that I may drink,’ and who answers, ‘Drink, and I will water your camels also’—may she be the one whom You have appointed for Your servant Isaac; and by this I will know that You have shown kindness to my master.”Genesis 24:12-14
Notice, the servant, presumably Eliezer, asks for favor in accordance with his masters instructions and desires!! He invokes his master’s name. He honors the authority structure in place. This is amazing confirmation that I noticed a couple hours after the opening question was initially posed to me.
There is much more that can be fleshed out here to add depth, but the clear overarching principle is that the woman’s prayers must approach the Great King without undermining or disrespecting her master.
I hope this will foster some good discussion!