Recently, I happened across a Bethany Christian Services magazine and was reading a couple articles about adoption, and no, that is not something we are considering at this time. But, a point in one of the articles prompted some thought about family unity and division.
A much debated subject in the Messianic movement is whether the Torah is just for the Jews, or is it the revelation of righteousness for all mankind. We’ve looked at this topic multiple times from various angles, a list of links below, but here is another thought: ‘How to Divide a Family…’ Simple, have different standards and rewards for the adopted children as you have for the natural born.
Seriously, think about it! If you had a child and then you adopted another child, would it not cause bitterness, anger, jealousy, resentment and myriad other sins if you treated the two radically differently in terms of rules and expectations?
We have four boys, each with unique personalities, gifts, abilities, etc. They will always be different, but I discipline them all according to my best ability using a level standard. Still, I am imperfect and not always exactly consistent which leads to my boys pointing out, sometimes passionately, any inconsistency of measure or expectation. And, that is with all of them being natural born! Imagine if I adopted and gave the adopted child ‘free rein’ with extra blessings while tightening the reins and vigorously punishing my natural born sons. The results would be all manner of division and sin!! I’d be the poster boy for bad parenting skills.
Yet, this unjust scale is precisely what we accuse Yahweh of when we think that He has different standards for different groups, contrary to mountains of evidence in Scripture.
Meditate on that!
More articles covering different angles and thoughts: